Healing trauma can feel heavy, 99.99% of the time. The thing that's helped me most is to approach trauma lightly. Whilst the contents of what has happened in my childhood & the impact it's had on me (& the character "Sanya") can feel serious & confronting, what we must remember is that this is all still Maya (illusion).
Read MoreAuthenticity is MESSY & living an authentic life is a commitment. It requires us to tune into ourselves (our wants, needs, emotions) & then act from a place of internal honesty. When we live authentically, our external selves (career, relationships, health) are a match to our internal selves (needs & emotions).
Read MoreWho are you without your achievements? Without your possessions? Without the perceived value you believe you bring to your relationships? The answer to this will point you directly towards your current level of self worth. It’s common for us to spend our days being productive as a way of justifying our self worth. If our value depends on our productivity, we’ll never truly feel valued. We’ll forever be chasing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Read MoreEach moment is the purpose of life. Each moment I wake, sleep, eat, drive, work, socialize, wash dishes and clean are what I'm DOING to contribute to this purpose. But the purpose of life, is right now, each moment as it unfolds. It's our actions and what we chose to do in each of these moments that gives meaning to our purpose.
Read MoreIt’s important to understand where fear is coming from and debunk the ‘scariness’ of fear. Fear is simply our response to an imagined future where through our vivid imagination, we’re picturing a perceived reality in which things are not working out for us. While fear has its place in warning us when we’re really in danger, it is our job as evolved beings to detect PERCEIVED danger, versus ACTUAL danger. The mind cannot tell the difference, so we need to jump into the driver’s seat and decide whether we want to believe the story that our imagination has made up about a perceived threat in the future.
Read MoreIf I was to define what self-love really means to me, I would describe it as nurturing, nourishing and supporting ourselves on every level: physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Self-love is the ability to make empowered choices towards the life we desire, which may include creating healthy boundaries in relationships and learning to say “no” when something doesn’t feel right. It means learning to give to ourselves that which we crave most from others, learning to fill our own cup and noticing when it starts to run empty. It means checking in daily with our inner child to see what he or she needs, and then actively meeting those needs. It means practicing forgiveness, compassion and being gentle with ourselves and most importantly it means giving ourselves permission to be HUMAN by allowing each emotion we experience to complete its cycle within us. Ultimately, it means seeing and treating ourselves the same way that source or the universe does, through the lens of unconditional love and acceptance.
Read MoreWhen we’re triggered and go in guns blazing to the person opposite us in an attempt to communicate how we feel, what we’re so naively trying to do is communicate in the least straightforward way. What we’re unaware of in that moment is that we’re hurt because a need of ours hasn’t been met due to the circumstances at play. Our feelings have very little to do with the person we’re speaking to, and everything to do with us and our recognition of an unmet need.
NVC is all about identifying this need (life force energy) in a healthy manner and then finding an effective way to communicate this to our friends, family and colleagues in a way that invites them to participate in a conversation. Utalizing effective communication, we can then ask them if they’re willing to contribute to meeting this unmet need and assist us in feeling more of these feelings.
Read MoreThe universe is always saying YES. It wants you to fulfill your dreams. It gets nothing out of stopping you from living the life you truly wish to live. So what’s the catch then? Why do so many of us find ourselves suffering and thinking that life is happening TO us and keeping us from our truest desires?
Read MoreDissatisfaction in ANY area of our lives is due to an imbalance occurring in our Body, Mind or Spirit.
In the body, imbalance can manifest as physical pain or an illness, in the mind, it can manifest as negative thought patterns, self sabotage or anxiety, and in the spirit, it can manifest as complete disconnection from our higher self.
Read MoreCrying is strength. Vulnerability is strength. Softening to the feelings and emotions that course through your body, be it anger, sadness or disappointment, is strength. Strength doesn’t lie in holding it all together and pretending to be ‘fine’. True strength lies in vulnerability. I believe that fine is simply another term for “Feelings Inside Not Expressed”.
But when we have years of social conditioning behind us, what can we do? How can we make men feel more comfortable and invite them to feel more vulnerable with us? How can we encourage them to open up to their own sensitivity and feel the effects of this softness?
Read MoreOn a biological level, emotions are simply electrochemical signals that flow through us in an unending cycle. They are released in our brains in response to our perceptions about the world. Every emotion is simply a signal, delivering a message. Their function is to guide us to survive and thrive. They focus our attention and motivate us toward a specific course of action. Each and every single emotion has a purpose. Discovering the true importance of emotions, I started to weave emotional healing into my coaching sessions with clients, giving them the space and tools to integrate their emotions in relation to the specific issue at hand. In particular, I started to work with my client's stuck emotions and helped them release what was no longer serving them. The result? They felt a lot freer, experienced elevated states of joy, and were able to tackle problems head on, now that the emotional charge had been addressed.
Read MoreApart from it being a highly unpleasant physical and emotional experience, pain is very useful in our day to day lives. It’s a message from our bodies (emotional and physical) that something is amiss.
Read MoreFor so long I wondered what it would feel like when I met “the one”. What would it be like to love someone and have them by my side, waking up next to me every day, loving me, holding me, being there for me during the hard times, helping me get back up when I feel down and truly valuing my beauty and radiance. For so long I imagined how wonderful it would be to spend the rest of my life with someone I love.
Read MoreWe are all personal creators, creating our own subjective realities in each moment (consciously or subconsciously). Whether you believe in this power or not, it is a law that governs our time-space reality. It works sort of like a magnet. Every dominant vibration that we hold internally, is simply mirrored by the universe, externally. What does this mean?
Read MoreWhy is coaching so magnificent? Well, the short answer is, it’s because of what YOU, the client brings to the table (a sense of openness, curiosity and wonder) and what your coach brings (life experience, patience, non-judgement, safety and honesty). When two people show up with an open mind and a willingness to learn, coaching becomes effortless and transformation is the natural outcome.
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